Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Prayer request...burying our girl...

In most situations, when a loved one passes away there typically aren't many concerns with burying them because the mortuary handles a lot of the 'behind the scenes' stuff. You are able to notify the family...plan the date....the ceremony... and begin to find closure even though you are left with a gaping hole in your heart. You at least walk away from the funeral having peace that their precious body has been buried with respect and love.

One of the hardest things for us to find closure in Zemirah's death is that her beautiful, little precious body is in a mortuary in Nevada and we have no legal rights to bring her home and bury her properly.  This has been extremely difficult for us.

We were coming to a place of acceptance when we received a phone call stating the mortuary had already buried her.  For a second, there was relief....then the reality of that started to sink in...when was she buried? who buried her? where is she buried? was she given a name? will we ever know where our daughter was buried?  A new depth of grieving has begun for us...none of this seems right...our baby girl was buried and we had no say in it...we have no idea where she is...this is almost too much to bare.

So, I sent our questions to our precious social worker. She had been in constant contact with the mortuary and we were all under the impression that they would keep her sweet body for 30 days while we tried to find the bmama so she could release her to us.  It has not be 30 days, so needless to say, we were shocked by that phone call on Friday telling us she was already buried.  Our sw has been making several phone calls.......and we just found out.....

Our little love has NOT been buried...she has NOT been given a legal name...she is now tied up in social services...YES...social services! We have bmama's consent and support in them releasing her to us BUT we need prayers that social services will release her to us so we can bring her home and bury her properly.

We've been told social services can take up to 90 days to determine her 'abandoned' and then we aren't sure what happens...I still can wrap my head around that...90 days?!?!?!?!   SHE'S NOT ABANDONED...WE WANT HER...WE LOVE HER...SHE IS OUR PRECIOUS BABY!!

Please my sweet friends...pray for the Lord's will and if it's His will that we get the honor of burying her, pray that social services will work quickly to allow us to bury our beautiful baby!!

In the midst of all of this we do have a bmama update:
She called a couple of days ago...what a relief to hear her voice. She is doing amazing!  She did receive the 'package' of love we sent her and was so incredibly blessed by it and all of you!

Still clinging to the joy of the Lord...still hurting...still missing our girl...still feeling like we won't ever be completely whole...BUT still trusting and loving our Lord...still hanging onto the hope that only He can give us...still resting in the peace that HE IS IN THIS!!!

10 comments:

Ransomed~Redeemed said...

Oh Stacy, I am sorry. We are praying the Lord will go before you and smooth out the details so you can bring your princess home and hopefully get at least some sort of closure. Bless you sweet sister. Even in the midst of your pain you are bringing Him glory.

Sarah said...

Oh, friend. Such a journey you are on. Will keep praying-thanks for giving us specifics. Love to you and the family~

Anonymous said...

Dear Lord...hear the cries of your children! Continue to show Yourself strong on their behalf. We pray for another miracle. Thank you for precious Zemirah and all You have planned because of the life you gave her. Love you, Andrea K

Vessel Handmade said...

Stacy, I cannot even imagine what you are going through. We are praying for you. Praying that sweet Zemirah can be brought home to you and the rest of her loving family.

Jewels of My Heart said...

Oh honey.... I am just so sorry..... will be praying for the Lord to move mountains of bureaucracy as He continues to hold you all in His loving arms....
Love you and praying....
Daleea

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Linda said...

Oh friend, I am praying and trusting that our God will be gracious to work out the details so that Zemirah will have a proper burial, surrounded by her forever family. We love you guys!

Jill Funkhouser said...

praying for you all..

Jill Funkhouser said...

praying for you all...

Marie said...

Oh my! So sorry you have to go through this on top of everything else. Praying that your baby will soon be where you want her, that you will be filled with indescribable peace.