Okay, so if you are an adoptive parent, I'm guessing you've heard most of these comments. We hear them almost daily. They usually don't bother me but today...TODAY I'm super irritated so you get to bear the brunt of my venting! It really irks me when people make these comments in front of my kids...ggrrrr. For some reason, people feel that because our babies joined our family through adoption it entitles them to ask whatever personal questions they want. Can you hear the mama claws comin' out???
~"Oh my, you are such a saint." I am anything but a saint...I am a big-time sinner saved by God's amazing grace.
~"You are amazing, I can only handle the one I have." When I had one, I could only handle one, too :)
~"Wow, they are so lucky." Not quite...hands down we are the lucky ones!
~"Are they all yours?" Yep, I'm pretty sure they are ALL mine although I do lose count sometimes.
~"Boy, you have your hands full." Yes, I do but I'd rather have them full then empty.
~"Do they all have the same dad?" Yep, it seems to skip a generation in our family.
~"Do you run a daycare?" No, why do you ask?
~"Where are their real parents?" Pretty sure I qualify for a real parent.
~"Which one's are your real kids?" What qualifies the term real...I'm confused...they look like living, breathing, REAL children to me?
~"They should be with their own kind." Ummm, what exactly is their OWN kind?
~"I think it's absurd that you would adopt outside of the US when there are so many kids here that need a home?" God has called us to adopt here and China...you are welcome to take that up with Him. There are over 147 million orphans worldwide who ALL need homes. God calls each of us to different journeys and we choose to follow His lead.
~"How can you possibly teach them about their true heritage?" Last I checked, their heritage is in Jesus Christ and that is all that matters!
~"How can you love them as much as your biological child?" Hmmm, well...let's see. Do you love your husband? But wait...he's not biologically related to you.
Obviously I'm a little irritated and I apologize for my sarcastic comments. Yes, these are common questions we receive. Yes, I have actually answered like that before but it's not my typical response. Yes, I am hyper sensitive to how my kids see me respond so I'm always very gracious and positive (well, almost always ;) It truly depends on if they are being super nosy or just curious about adoption. I had several people go on and on to me about being a 'saint' today and it really, really bothered me! I just want to scream "I am NOT a saint...I am just a simple mama who wants her house full of kiddos to love on. "
Okay, I'm done now...thanks for letting me vent :)